Happy June ~
I feel like I’ve met a hundred versions of myself already this month. Moving, traveling and spending time with people will do that to you. I think during any shift in your life, you are really met with a reflection of yourself. Because whatever you’ve been aligned with, dreaming up and praying for is mirrored to you. A random thought, but one that I’m feeling called to share… Deane and I often have a conversation about the concept of co-creation vs compromise. We have made a lot of moves and changes in support of one another the past couple years and I think ultimately none of them have felt overwhelming or one-sided because we have a vision for our future and communicate what we each need along our ‘life path’ together. It was becoming very clear to both of us that I was feeling out of sorts in our last apartment. I told Deane that my dream place would have stairs and a fireplace to feel more homey, walking distance to shops and restaurants to feel more like NY, and ideally in the Palisades because the mood reminds me of SB and Marin (two places I love). Deane knows that I am super sensitive to my surroundings and took every measure to find us the right place, even though he had no real need or desire to move. Another example, I knew when we were living in NY that there was a company Deane had his eye on that was based in LA. Luckily it was on my bucket list to try out LA at some point in the future, but it was also an easy yes when Deane was offered a new job / move opportunity because I knew he was in need of a career change of this sort, and I knew it would shake up the right part of our lives.
Even though I wasn’t super consciously aware of what made all this change easeful, I see clearly looking back that there was a consistent circling back to our long-term goals. Know what you want as individuals and what you want as a couple, then know what you each need to feel peace and fulfillment in the present and inspired on the path forward.
Every individual is different and therefore every relationship is different, but co-creation is something that I keep top of mind. It’s helpful when real life decisions need to be made and it’s also a fun way to see what’s going on in one another’s mind. As much as Deane can intuit what I’m feeling and thinking, he is not a mind reader ~ nor am I. It has been the greatest way that I know to exercise curiosity and support in my relationship, and a good way to navigate challenges from a centered, non-reactive mindset.
Anyway, thank you for letting me spill what’s on my mind and with that… a few sweet photos from the past week or so…
A lot of cleaning, editing and swapping has happened in this room since I snapped this picture, but I just love the angle.
When we first moved to LA I really missed the NY ease of strolling around and running down the block to pick something up or say hi to a friend. Feeling very grateful that our new place is in walking distance to everything a girl may need.
Not the norm, but I was craving something cold and tried out this carrot, orange, lime drink. It was phenomenal and reminded me of popsicles I used to eat as a kid.
We ventured to Park City for the weekend with friends. It was pretty wild to see snow in the month of June, but beautiful and a very needed mountain reset.
A whole lot of spa-ing was done.
As well as a whole lot of whiskey tasting, cider tasting and karaoke up and down Main Street.
A very sweet photo of Miles and Shane during our fly fishing outing. The water was icey but the sky was beautiful and we were successful fisherman for the day.
We hiked 45 minutes to get to this secluded spot and it was most worth it.
Dinner at Grappa. We finished the night with a honey and chamomile grappa tasting and then fell right asleep.
A trip to LACC to watch a bit of the US Open.
Then straight to Napa for the night.
It was a very busy two days but I got to soak in a lot St Helena healing while I was out and about.
A mirror selfie kind of gal.
I will never not love these colors together.
I always make a stop in Vintage Home and dream up my future kitchen full of Juliska and Laguiole.
I stopped by Oakville Grocery on my way to the airport to pick up a BLTA. Someone recently told me they thought the food in Napa Valley was mediocre and all I had to say was ???
On my way to meet a friend for coffee. Water in hand!
I pass by these yellow roses on my morning walk and they were in full bloom over the weekend.
One of my favorite flowers ~ matilija poppies.
Deane and I have been in a cocktail testing mood. Our Friday night pick was a mezcal Negroni it did not disappoint.
Evening view from the patio.
I went furniture shopping and fell in love with this gorgeous chair. The color was some dreamy burnt toffee. Really sad that I have no place / need for her but will be keeping in mind for future residences.
A sunny view from the bluffs.
Way up with the clouds.
Caught peeking into a house.
Saturday night choice was a classic martini. These were quite ~dirty~ but also delicious.
Bread, butter, cheddar, mustard and arugula.
Goodies from the Sunday morning farmers market.
Fridge files.
Not seeing this guy until the weekend and I miss him already.
And lastly, a selfie from my younger brothers who aren't so little anymore. Some sort of homage to the US Open.